I’m going into a personal little rant today, because I’m getting pretty fed up of the fact people are still discriminating people for their weight.
Weight is quite personal thing to me – I’ve always been slightly underweight (through no fault of my own, may I add) and it’s just the way it is. Last year I was quite unwell and my weight went down to the lowest it’s ever been since I’ve been an adult and holy crap, I looked so thin. But what I don’t understand is why people feel the need to comment on it? Like, I wasn’t well…
Below are a few examples about skinny shaming that I thought I’d write a little bit about.
Recently I was scrolling through instagram (as I do, a ridiculous amount) and Georgia Toffolo (a girl from Made In Chelsea) had put up a cute little photo of her wearing a nice blue dress looking totally normal and happy. However – I saw a comment underneath like ‘she’s far too thin’ and there were definitely some others which I think have since been deleted. This then made me think ‘are my legs too skinny?’ or ‘am I ugly because I’m skinny?’ or ‘do people think I’m too thin?’.
Weight in itself is an extremely personal thing, so as soon as someone comments on it (whether you’re being called fat or skinny) is never going to have super positive reactions. In reality, who cares what size someone’s legs are? Is it really relevant?
I was taking some lame selfies in one of my new skirts and I was looking really skinny because of the tucked in vest top I was wearing. When it came to editing the photos, I genuinely hated the photos of me where I looked super thin because I knew people would see it and think it’s ‘too skinny’ – when really I should just be happy with how my body is and post photos regardless, should I not? I occasionally don’t post certain photos online because of how thin people will say I look (even though that’s just the way my body is) and now I think about it, I shouldn’t care.
This makes me think that I’m definitely not the only person who doesn’t upload a certain photo because they’re worried about appearing ‘too skinny’ – when surely it’s all about showing off my sassy new skirt?
‘Real men prefer curves’. This phrase really pisses me off. Firstly, who decides what all men like anyway, secondly, does that mean my boyfriend isn’t a real man because he loves a skinny girl? Sure, curvy women are gorgeous too, but why are we still singling people out? Like, isn’t everyone different and beaut in their own way? A lot of people backlash skinny people because ‘that’s what most models are’ – but since when do I decide what size models are? It’s not my fault, and just because some models are skinnier than me doesn’t automatically mean I aspire to be like them. I wish I was a bit more ‘plump’ sometimes but whenever I say it I get laughed at, yet if someone who was slightly overweight said ‘I want to be a bit smaller’ then it would be considered normal.
I just don’t like how apparently all ‘skinny girls’ have a stereotype which means they don’t eat anything, all want to be models and want to be as skinny as possible.
Everyone has an idea of what being ‘perfect’ is, but the reality is that they’re all different.
I think the moral of this blog post is that if you get one of those comments about your weight, big or small (pun kinda intended), just remember everyone has different desires when it comes to their size.