The Lonely Blogger

My alarm goes off at 8am every day and I make a coffee and get back into bed. Heck, sometimes I don’t even get out of bed until 9am because I’m scrolling through social media until I can’t cope with my dead hand any longer. I cosy up in my bed, I cuddle my cat, I reply to blog comments, I write content and I take photos.

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Easy life, right? Well, not really. I’m seriously lacking human interaction.

It’s fun that I get to spend so much time doing something that I really enjoy, and I speak to so many different people every day, but the only issue is that none of these people are ever face to face. I live in a social bubble where all I do is talk to bloggers via Whatsapp and Twitter and the only faces I see most days are my cats and my family. I’m not lonely, per se, but I just feel like I don’t have any real communication to anyone. I don’t go out for drinks, I don’t go out shopping with friends, I don’t go for cute dinners and cinema dates with the girls, because, well, they kinda don’t exist in real life.

Now, I do have some friends… But at the moment all of my them are going back to University, which is great for them, but it also means I crawl back into a quiet hole until Christmas rolls around. This got me thinking – everyone has a friendship group from either work, University/college, or if you’re lucky… both. I have neither. I didn’t make friends at Uni, and I haven’t got a job (but I’m working on that). All of my friends are great, but they’ve also got other friendship groups which they either live with or see more often, and therefore probably have stronger bonds with. I don’t have a problem with it, but ever since realising that I don’t actually have any external friends (except special ones through the internet) I’ve actually felt SO lonely. Somehow I’m speaking to a million different people every day and still finding myself desperate to actually speak to people.

So, why don’t I get out there a bit more? Well, I have some opportunities in the blogging world. I could go to events, I could meet up with bloggers, but I’m still far too nervous to go to London or up north where all of the bloggers are. It seems like nobody lives near the quiet village that I reside in, and to be honest I don’t blame them, it’s totally in the middle of nowhere. I want to go to events and meet these friends I’ve made, but as I spoke about in this post, it’s just too much of a step for me right now.

So yeah, I’m in a rut. My friends have other friends, my other friends technically only survive in screen form, and I just plod along in my bedroom and get my job done. I have to say I feel like I know all of the Radio 1 DJ’s very well though.

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I feel like this sorta thing is so common for bloggers. I started this blog because I left University and wanted a fun project to do while I was trying to sort out my mental health. I reckon it’s quite a common thing for people with anxiety or depression to do but it’s not helping any of us get out there and meet people, that’s the problem.

Does anyone else feel like this? Am I the only one? Drop me a comment with your thoughts!

P.s. Sorry for moping, a gal gotta rant!

R x

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26 Comments

  1. 28th September 2016 / 6:33 pm

    I really loved reading this post. I totally feel you at the moment as a lot of my friends are living away or are busy with work/university or have their own children. I have been making more of an effort to go out and see friends now that I have time as I’ve finished university though, but I can completely relate. Always here if you need a chat lovely πŸ™‚ xx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

    • 30th September 2016 / 1:55 pm

      Thanks Jessie! You’re the bomb. It’s so difficult now we’re all getting older and everyone’s got their own paths!

      R xoxo

  2. 28th September 2016 / 6:44 pm

    I know EXACTLY what you’re talking about. For me it’s basically the same. While all the other bloggers are jetting off to big adventures with their besties every other day, I’m sat here working from home. I do love that. But sometimes it just gets TOO quiet. But hey, at least there’s social media πŸ˜‰

    Love, Kerstin
    http://www.missgetaway.com/

    • 30th September 2016 / 1:56 pm

      I know right, I’m perfectly happy working at home and I’m good at getting stuff done but it’s SO quiet sometimes, haha! I do wish I was able to jet off to events and whatnot but my time will come!

      R xoxo

  3. 28th September 2016 / 6:49 pm

    I’m the exact same! Since my accident two years ago and my surgeries I can’t go out and my friends don’t bother with me because I can’t go out like they can. I get the odd text now and then from them that’s it. All I do is blog and talk to bloggers, if I didn’t talk to bloggers I think I would feel even more lonely.

    I’m hoping to go back into work again once I’m more mobile etc… but being house bound for the past 2 years has really taken its toll. I’m like you too I don’t live in a big city either so blogging events are too far away πŸ™

    When people say your twenties are best erm nah they are the most stressful! Sending hugs!!

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    • 30th September 2016 / 1:57 pm

      Ahhh yes I can’t imagine how tricky it’s been for you! I can remember when you started having all of those operations! It’s great that so many bloggers are available for chatting. I’m starting to look into jobs and whatnot so I’m hoping that’ll help with the quietness, good luck to you babe!

      R xoxo

  4. Izzy Fletcher
    28th September 2016 / 8:02 pm

    Yes! I could have written this post myself as i feel exactly the same! Don’t get me wrong, i love blogging and i try and put my heart and soul in to bit but i honestly feel like all i do is sit on social media and sometimes i just have to put my phone down and think, “I can’t do this today”. I’ve met some genuinely lovely people through blogging and i wouldn’t change but i do find it really lonely too.

    • 30th September 2016 / 1:59 pm

      It is quite tricky staring at a screen all day with no social interaction! I love it but at the same time it’s just so quiet.

      R xoxo

  5. 28th September 2016 / 10:16 pm

    I couldn’t relate to this more! I’m in such a similar situation. I started my blog when I left college and didn’t have a clue what I wanted to next, but due to mental health reasons I’m far too scared about getting a job due to past fears of ‘not being good enough’ etc. I wake up, sit in bed too on social media, then I get up and blog for the day, then repeat. It does feel lonely. I rarely see friends either as they’re either busy with their own jobs or seeing other friends. So even though you feel lonely, you’re really not in the sense that others are going through the exact same. I hope the both of us can get a job and feel less alone:)xx

    Lauren | itslaurenvictoria.blogspot.co.uk

    • 30th September 2016 / 2:00 pm

      Sounds exactly what I do! I don’t mind blogging all day, obviously, but it just means I never get out much! I’m in the process of getting a job so hopefully that’ll help, good luck with getting one!

      R xoxo

  6. 29th September 2016 / 6:01 am

    Robyn I’m exactly the same! I spend 99.9% of my time alone, and wish I was going out to to cute cafes and things with my friends all the time! But things will slowly but surely look up and I will one day come to your little home town and we can hang out and laugh at my northern accent! ILY XO

    • 30th September 2016 / 2:01 pm

      I knowww! We’re such loners, I wish we lived closer haha! I’d so love that, you’ll laugh at how posh I am!

      R xoxo

  7. 29th September 2016 / 1:05 pm

    Oh babe this broke my heart a little bit to read – I hate the thought of you feeling lonely!!
    I know London is a massive step to travel to, when my anxiety was at its worst the thought of travelling down to see my friends was way too much for me and it took years and years until I felt ready to move down here.

    I’m always up for a trip away though, even if its just for the day so if you ever want to meet up one weekend just drop me a line πŸ™‚

    Keep your chin up, you’re amazing xxx
    http://www.ljlv.co.uk

    • 30th September 2016 / 2:02 pm

      Oh girrlll thank you! You babe. London is such a scary thought for me but I know it’s a step that I’ll cover somewhen. I’l; totally take you up on that offer one day!!

      R xoxo

  8. 29th September 2016 / 1:58 pm

    I completely feel this! A lot of my friends are friends from uni, & unfortunately we went to uni in a small (but beautiful town) – we all adore it but it wasn’t possible to stay, so now the ones from my year are all spread out everywhere. I have friends in other years who are still there, and when I left I had big plans to visit all the time to see them and my boyfriend – until he dumped me about a month ago. I now can’t go back and visit as I have nowhere to really stay, my other friends are all over the place & I’m still the new girl at my job so I don’t really have anyone there.

    I’ve always had internet friends & I love them and my newer blogger friends but it isn’t the same really. I’d say our relationships are just as strong but it’s totally different because we can’t do the physically going out & stuff. I’m hoping learning to drive is gonna mean that I can see uni friends who also live in the midlands more but working at Starbucks doesn’t exactly have me rolling in cash!

    Anyway, that’s enough of my life story πŸ˜‰ this is a really great post & so relatable. I hope you’re feeling better about it soon!

    Ro xx

    • 30th September 2016 / 2:03 pm

      Oh my that’s so awful! I’m so sorry! It’s so difficult when something like that happens, and as you say, blogging friends are amazing but it’s so tricky when you’re not physically with each other so it doesn’t feel good enough. I hope you feel better about it soon too!

      R xoxo

  9. Sophie
    29th September 2016 / 6:13 pm

    I had never really considered that the majority of bloggers do suffer with anxiety and/or mental health problems becasue we are all just a bit lonely and in need of a direction, a focus and a way of feeling wanted. I love Twitter chats and literally if I am feeling really alone then I just have to take part in one and I feel a million times better. I don’t think it’s not normal to feel like this, I know I certainly do sometimes, good luck with the job hunting, my co-workers are the only people who keep me going sometimes! xx

    http://www.sophieblxck.com

    • 30th September 2016 / 2:04 pm

      I think it’s really common! If you’re anxious and struggle with going out then I can imagine a lot of people turn to online stuff, I know I did! Twitter chats are SO great for doing stuff, I just hate how it’s all online and never in person haha!

      R xoxo

  10. Jodie
    1st October 2016 / 8:18 pm

    Hey Robyn I just read your blog!
    I know what it feels like to be lonely everyday and I have the exact same situation as you, I’d love to go to blogger events but have no one to go with and I’m way to scared to go on my own.
    If you ever want someone to meet up with and have s coffee or go to s blogger event with then please do not hesitate to contact me, it would actually be a blessing to have someone alongside me to push one another

    • 3rd October 2016 / 8:53 am

      Hey Jodie! Thanks for your comment. That sounds so great, sometimes all we need is a little push! It can be so difficult going to big places that we’ve never been or with people we don’t know so it would definitely help!

      R xoxo

  11. 5th October 2016 / 4:40 pm

    Oh my gosh, I can so relate to this. I didn’t make any friends at uni, and in my current job there are only 8 of us, and most are much older than me; we get on great at work. But they are just that, work friends. Not friend friends. I don’t see them outside of work, ya know? All my school friends (lol – I mean the two I keep in touch with!) have moved away, or I’ve moved away, and we don’t get to see each other except for at weddings/christenings etc. I literally spend my days off with my mum – who is also moving away very soon – and my fiancΓ© (when he’s not at work). I’m very lonely, and I do love my blog, and the online interactions and friends I have. But it doesn’t make up for the actual face-to-face interaction, or going out with friends for a coffee, or to see a film. I get you. xx

    • 9th October 2016 / 4:04 pm

      I know, it’s SO tough! Everyone moves away or you move away and it gets so complicated! Having the online interaction is amazing but it really does lack with social contact!

      R xoxo

  12. 10th October 2016 / 12:49 pm

    Aw Robyn, thank you for this post. Funnily enough, it made me feel like I’m not alone! Pretty much all my friends have moved away or getting married and having children so I can’t help but feel lonely at times. I may be an “online friend” but always here for a chat! Georgia xxx

    • 11th October 2016 / 4:19 pm

      I know that’s what’s happening with me! I’m only 21 so I feel like I’m not ready for all that yet but everyone else is haha! Love ya girly!

      R xoxo

  13. Elly Mitchell
    12th October 2016 / 12:38 pm

    I love this, and I know exactly how you feel. I absolutely love blogging because I am loving the genuine friends I am meeting along the way, however, in the ‘real world’ I can count the people I actually hang out with on one hand.

    I would also love to start attending blogger events and meeting the fantastic people that I have virtually met, but it is very daunting to take that first step.

    I know that without the people that invest their time in me online, I would feel very lonely sometimes offline.

    • 14th October 2016 / 2:46 pm

      I agree, without the online relationships I think I’d feel even more lonely, but it’s so tricky when you’re not seeing many people in real life!

      R xoxo

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