Why I’m Not A Fan Of Setting Goals

‘New Year, New me’

‘I have SO many goals for this year, what are yours?’

‘Do you have any New Years resolutions?’

Lol, nope. I don’t really set goals.

It’s January, so of course it’s the main ‘think about what I’m going to do for the next year‘ month, but it’s just not my thing. Which I know is a bit weird.

I understand why people set them, I mean, it’s like you have something to work towards and then when you hit them it’s quite a cool achievement. But whatever happened to living in the present and taking each day as it comes?

I suppose you could say I have one goal, and that’s to get through every day as efficiently and as happily as possible. I don’t think about what I could be doing in 4 months time, or how long a certain piece of work will take me, because what’s the point? If I’m working as effectively and maybe ‘quickly’ as possible, then I’m not going to work any faster by setting a goal for something to be done by. I find myself in a dangerous zone of ok I haven’t done this so I’m a failure when I set goals and don’t hit them, instead of thinking ‘well actually, I’ve worked really hard at this work, I can’t possibly do it any faster so it’s fine for me to continue on what I’m doing until it’s done’.

I prefer to call it ‘effective planning’.

No time restrictions, just ideas of what could happen. Using the word ‘might’ instead of ‘will’. And most importantly, less of a repercussion of failure.

I’m kinda rambling a little. I think part of me thinks that goal setting is fine if you’re in control of it, but a lot of things in life change so quickly, don’t they? And of course they’re going to affect your goals? Let’s take Instagram for example – I gained more Instagram followers in 2015 than I did in 2016. Is it because my Instagram sucks? No. Is it because I promoted it less or posted less? Nope. It was because of an Instagram algorithm change (the little sh*t). So, did I do anything wrong? Not at all. Did the universe do something wrong? Yes – and if I had a goal set for it, I’d’ve instantly thought it was because I’m crap.

A lot of goals people set are yearly, and the only thing that comes to mind when I say that is ‘bloody hell, 365 days is a lot of days’. How could you possibly know what you’re doing in a month, let alone a year? Within a year I could be going abroad, moving house, learning to drive, buying a car, and God knows what else – how will I know what a good indicator of how many Instagram followers I’ll get by 2018? When I could just go with the flow, work as hard on it as possible and end up with what I end up with?

So what’s the purpose of the post? Well, it’s just for me to say that having a one-day-at-a-time attitude is really quite rewarding, and it carries a lot less baggage.

I’d love to know what you all think on the subject. A lot of people are very pro-goal-setting, but I’d be interested to know if anyone doesn’t set goals, and why they don’t! Comment down below as always!

R x

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20 Comments

  1. 20th January 2017 / 9:00 am

    I’ve been feeling this a lot lately too! I set goals for my blog, but in terms of general life goals, I decided to give it a miss. Of course there are things I’d likr to achieve this year, but I don’t need that added pressure to get them done and as you said things do change. I’m just taking each day as I comes. Fab post as always xx

    Lauren | itslaurenvictoria.blogspot.co.uk

    • 20th January 2017 / 2:47 pm

      I think there’s a big difference between wanting to achieve something and putting pressure on yourself to do it, so you don’t go into that negative failure spiral! Thanks babe!

      R xoxo

  2. 20th January 2017 / 9:16 am

    I actually completely get what you’re saying. With goal setting, there’s a lot of room for failure because life likes to throw a spanner in the works! But I still set goals every year because, tbh, I find them very motivating. Before goals, I don’t think I worked that hard, pushed that hard, or did that well. Life with goals sees me work harder, and do better. It’s probably just ‘cos I’m lazy, but goal setting really does work well for me!

    • 20th January 2017 / 2:48 pm

      Glad you see my side! I feel like it’s a bit of an unpopular opinion but I just felt like expressing my views on it. I do agree that they are motivating also! Just not for me altogether, I hate the negativity that comes with failure.

      R xoxo

  3. 20th January 2017 / 12:18 pm

    Absolutely love your point of view. I’m a goal person myself and always need to form goals in order to get shiz done. If I don’t I’d probably lie around in bed for the entirety of my life. But I do see what you’re talking about and I do agree with some things. And that#s fine. Not everyone has to be “HEY THIS IS MY GOAL” and shout it to the world.

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    • 20th January 2017 / 2:49 pm

      Thanks Kerstin! Glad you see my point of view. It’s interesting to see what others think on the subject!

      R xoxo

  4. 20th January 2017 / 2:32 pm

    This post so eloquently puts what I have been trying to do for years into words! I love the concept of trying to make each day as efficient as possible, I’ve definitely been slacking at that!

    Jodie // jodieloue.com

    • 20th January 2017 / 2:49 pm

      Yes Jodie! I’m the same, I don’t have time to think about the future and I’m happy with taking one day at a time. I feel like sometimes putting loads of goals in place can create more stress than necessary!

      R xoxo

  5. 20th January 2017 / 7:07 pm

    Couldn’t agree more with what you are saying. I’m awful at always forward thinking and having goals, luckily I don’t tend to beat myself up too much if I don’t meet them, but being more mindful of the small things I achieve day to day is something I really want to start doing more!

    Jodie / jodiemelissa.com

    • 21st January 2017 / 10:53 am

      Thanks for your comment babe! I think living one day at a time is so much easier and stress free!

      R xoxo

  6. 20th January 2017 / 9:55 pm

    This is such a good way of looking at new years resolutions. It’s a different perspective and I totally agree, live in the moment and just see what happens! That’s definitely worked for me this month already so I know exactly where your coming from.. Great post xo
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    • 21st January 2017 / 10:53 am

      Glad you see where I’m coming from 🙂 I understand why goals work for other people, but it’s ok for them not to work for us all 🙂

      R xoxo

  7. 21st January 2017 / 7:33 am

    This is a great way of thinking Robyn. We just need to take one day at a time! (Also, totally relate to the whole Instagram thing… the little sh*ts *eye roll* xxx

    • 21st January 2017 / 10:54 am

      Agreed! And haha, the little buggers! Why do they ruin our lives!

      R xoxo

  8. 23rd January 2017 / 11:11 am

    i think i don’t like saying goals but plans. plans to be a better person, to travel and grow my blog because that way theres no disappointment involved.

    • 23rd January 2017 / 4:35 pm

      I agree! A plan is a much better word because it’s like an idea that you want to achieve, but less of a time restriction!

      R xoxo

  9. 24th January 2017 / 10:26 am

    Goals just don’t seem to work for me either like you I prefer to focus on the big picture and take on each day as it comes

    • 24th January 2017 / 4:15 pm

      Yeah me too, it’s not worth getting tied up on goals if it doesn’t work for you!

      R xoxo

  10. 3rd February 2017 / 9:05 pm

    In a way I do get what you mean. For the longest time, I refused to set goals myself. However there came a point in my life when I needed to be reminded of who I was and why I was doing all the things I was doing at the time. To each their own, I guess. While it is hard sometimes to deal with failure, I learn long ago to treat failures as reasons to improve. Anyway, good luck! Setting goals might not be for everyone, but living a nice and healthy life should. Enjoy and make the best of it.

    • 5th February 2017 / 8:52 pm

      Thanks for your comment! Exactly, some goals are good to set, but it’s good to try and approach them with an open mind and not necessarily be bummed down by failure – it’s one thing I need to learn!

      R xoxo

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