It’s Time To Stop Comparing And Start LIVING

Comparison is the one thing that gets me down on a daily basis. Whether it’s thinking someone is doing a better job at me in life, earning more money or just wearing a better skirt, I’m constantly comparing and causing myself anger and frustration as to why I don’t have certain things or aren’t lucky enough to have certain qualities.

There will be two types of responses to that first paragraph. The first will be ‘oh my god SAME’ and the other will be ‘you have problems girl, get a grip’. Don’t worry, I know I probably need to get a grip, but comparison is one of those traits that many of us have, even if we don’t realise it. In the last few decades the world has become a place of knowledge and technology, and just SO MANY THINGS – I think it’s human nature to want to have it all or know a lot of things, and when you find people who do everything perfectly or own everything you want, that comparison and jealousy can so easily set in and ruin your mood.

I think this kinda feeling was spurred on earlier this week when I wasn’t feeling all that great. I hadn’t posted on my blog in a week and I wasn’t motivated to do much in general. We all get ill sometimes, right? Well, wrong in my eyes. All I could see was other bloggers posting amazing content 2 or 3 times a day, and constantly tweeting and keeping their audiences engaged. I felt guilty that I was barely saying anything and that any content I was producing was not only sparse, but was quite lack lustre in quality.

I’d go into a spiral of comparison, jealousy, upset and that whole feeling like I’m not good enough vibe – it’s not life, is it? I’m not LIVING. I’m living through the idea that one day I’ll have qualities of other people.

But that’s not going to happen… because I’m me?

What did comparing myself to others do to me? Well, nothing really. It didn’t motivate me to do any work, it just made me feel worse about myself and prolong my afternoon nap, if anything. I’m totally guilty of giving myself a hard time, and I know that I’m not alone in doing that. So what if I’m ill? Take a few days break, have some guilt-free afternoon naps, watch some Netflix and lower the workload for a bit. That’s what normal people do, don’t they? Why is social media making me feel like nobody is even ill any more? It’s becoming a perception that so many people fall for.

So, why am I saying all this? Because now comparison is the norm, and it shouldn’t be. The anxieties and self esteems that surround jealousy and comparison are what take away from our happiness and living our normal life. Ever heard ‘comparison is the thief of joy’? Probably, I’m not giving you much new information in this blog post, but merely re-instating the fact that the comparison bubble is one that won’t let us live our lives to the fullest, and to be honest I’ve reached a eureka moment where I’m bored of being jealous of others and just want to look after myself, my happiness and my body.

Jumper – c/o Sugarhill Boutique

Skirt – ASOS

Bag – River Island (sold out, same with studs here)

Sunnies – New Look

Shoes – New Look (sold out, but found some lush red mules here!)

And what better way to uplift our spirits than the softest jumper in the world with the word lucky on it – because we really are lucky, aren’t we? Life lesson from Robyn today is to not take life for granted and stop striving to be like other people – because you are YOU, my sweethearts!

This is some deep shizz today. I swear I’m okay. I’ll be back talking make-up and hair in a few days, haha!

R x

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11 Comments

  1. 1st September 2017 / 9:56 am

    YES Robyn I freaking loved this! I’m definitely firmly in the ‘oh my god SAME’ group of responses because comparison is definitely something that troubles and demotivates me on a daily basis. I’m not sure I’ve quite had my eureka moment, but I’m trying to be mindful of it because it really can just make you want to hide away because you’ll feel you’re NEVER going to be as good as the things you see around you. Which is silly, because we’re all different and all have something to offer. Looking gorgeous in this post as always and I love the jumper! xxx

    Sophie | Sophar So Good

    • 13th September 2017 / 5:21 pm

      Glad you can relate! When I was writing this part of me wasn’t sure if anyone was actually having the same thought process as me… but girl we really are all different and we DO all have something different to offer!!

      R xoxo

  2. 1st September 2017 / 5:22 pm

    You’re so right! Comparison should not be a norm!

    Great post gal xxxx

    • 13th September 2017 / 5:23 pm

      It’s so easy to do but definitely too much of it is happening in the world right now!

      R xoxo

  3. 1st September 2017 / 8:56 pm

    I’m so guilty of doing this – always wanting to strive for bigger and better, and seeing other people’s success as motivation. It can be good but also so exhausting! So well written and I love your lucky jumper! xx
    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

    • 13th September 2017 / 5:24 pm

      It’s good to want to strive to do better, but when it gets you down that others are doing better etc that’s when it’s comparison and that’s when we need to take a step back and just stay in our own bubble and our own pace. Otherwise, like you say, it would be SO exhausting!

      R xoxo

  4. 2nd September 2017 / 12:12 am

    I wrote something similar on my blog about my relationship with jealousy. It’s a very negative emotion but the reality is, its just because I too want to better myself.

    • 13th September 2017 / 5:24 pm

      Agreed, someone wrote something similar in the comments about bettering yourself but everyone has a different pace of working and we shouldn’t put ourselves down!

      R xoxo

  5. Angela
    3rd September 2017 / 1:54 am

    Yep guilty of this. Im always comparing myself, my blog, my life to everyone else.
    My anxiety has been high lately and so I stepped away from my phone more, scheduled blog stuff so didn’t need to be online 24/7 and stepped back from social media. It felt good x

    • 13th September 2017 / 5:25 pm

      Yeah in a world of social media and blogging it’s very easy to compare because it’s a creative industry where you can physically see things and compare them instantly! I bet it felt good spending a little less time on your phone and its something we should all do more of!

      R xoxo

  6. manole
    23rd March 2018 / 8:07 pm

    Nice look…

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