It’s Been 3 Years Since I Left University Early… Am I Doing Okay?

Winter has always been a tough time for me, with a mixture of the cold weather eating away at my strength and the social aspect of Christmas/my birthday/New Year within a week freaking me out. I left University 3 years ago during the Winter holidays after completing a year and a term, and it was one of the most difficult, but important/life-changing decisions I’ve ever made – it was that Winter that started 3 Winters of anxiety, stress, upset, tiredness and just general exhaustion. I remember back in 2016 I wrote a post about -trying- not to feel like a failure for not finishing my degree (which you can read here) but I’ve always had an inkling that it would come back to bite me in the arse.

Until this year.

This year has finally been the year that I’ve not let my troubles get to me and I’ve kinda let go and said ‘f- you’ to the degree that I didn’t get.

Last month I was approached by BBC Newsbeat to give my opinions on University from the opinion of someone who had left during a course. They had seen on Twitter that obviously I’d been through it all so wanted to ask me some (well, tons) of questions about my life at University, whether I enjoyed it, why I left, and mainly… how I am now. You can read the little snippet of me in the article here, but what really hit home was what I REALLY have achieved since leaving University, without a degree, and without having a clue what I was going to do when I was in such a spiralling, deep hole of stress, anxiety and nothingness.

Part of the article says about how I just couldn’t hack it, and in general I think I said a lot in my interview that I just wasn’t ready for University. I think it goes for a lot of people, I mean, 18 is such a young age to move away from home (not for all, but for some), yet I think so many are pushed into doing so and either go because they’re told to by their school or parents, or want to go to stall time while they’re looking for something they’re truly interested in. I did the latter, and in the end my lack of interest got me a wasted year and a years worth of pointless debt (and nothing to show for it).

But how am I doing without a degree?

FINE! I’m living with my boyfriend in a lovely flat, with two jobs that I adore, neither of which required a degree. I may not be the CEO of a huge company any time soon, but I’m hardworking and I’m damn good on a spreadsheet.

This isn’t a blog post dedicated to the fact that I’m having an amazing life and that you shouldn’t go to University, but I know I’m more of an on-the-job kinda girl, and it does worry me that people are just shoved into University without knowing more about other options. Starting up this blog from scratch is something I’m immensely proud of… even though it took a million Youtube videos and questions that even Google couldn’t give me answers to.

But anyway, not everyone is made for University and never be forced into it if it’s not right for you. You can go at any age and waiting a year won’t hurt you while you find your feet and your real interests (I mean, was I ever going to be interested in a maths degree?).

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Top – Missguided (only £4!)

Jeans – New Look

Boots – Dorothy Perkins (in the sale!)

Bag – c/o Boohoo

Scarf – Topshop (old, similar here)

Belt – ASOS (smaller one of two pack)

Let me know your thoughts about University and if you left mid-way like I did – would love to know your opinions!

R x

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12 Comments

  1. 5th March 2018 / 8:56 am

    Robyn, I totally agree with your point about being worried about people just being shoved into Uni! I didn’t go at all, because I guess I always knew that I did better by ‘doing’ things – but my college had absolutely no support for people who didn’t want to go to Uni and so unless you’d done the research and decided yourself – you had no one to show you how many other, incredible options there are!

    I, personally, think you’re doing bloomin’ fabulous. I’ve enjoyed following you on your journey since the beginning! 🙂

    Soph x | http://www.sophierosie.com

    • 10th March 2018 / 12:41 pm

      I think so too! People get no support for other options and it’s like University is the only option sometimes. Sure University is GREAT, but not for everyone! Thanks so much by the way we’ve known each other since day 1!!

      R xoxo

  2. Lauren Victoria
    5th March 2018 / 12:47 pm

    So glad to hear you’re doing okay, Robyn!xx

    Lauren | itslaurenvictoria.blogspot.co.uk

    • 10th March 2018 / 12:42 pm

      Thanks lovely! Thanks for being so supportive since the beginning!

      R xoxo

  3. 5th March 2018 / 3:27 pm

    LOVE this post Robyn! It is so true that uni isnt for everyone and I think schools do so poorly to educate their students of other options. Its so lovely seeing how well you are doing since!

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    Ellie x

    • 10th March 2018 / 12:42 pm

      They really do don’t they! I feel like I would’ve been better off if I was educated of other options to be honest. But thanks so much!! You too of course!

      R xoxo

  4. 5th March 2018 / 4:16 pm

    I trotted off to uni nearly 3 years ago, the only one from my college course to get accepted and I thought I was going to love it. By the end of first year I had feelings of wanting to drop out but I persevered and said the next year would be better because I got to chose my modules…until the ones I chose didn’t run so I had to do ones I didn’t want. Now I’m only a few weeks from handing in my dissertation and being done with university altogether. I kind of wish I’d dropped out after first year, but I’m also proud of the fact that despite the fact I don’t always enjoy my course and dealing with a lot of issues during second year (loss of my granddad and my first ever breakup) I’ve made it to the final straight, and if anything the fact that I’m not loving my course had made me want to work harder to make the time go quicker. I wish there was more education on apprenticeships and alternatives to university…after all I’ve paid all this money and have zero interest in pursuing a career in dance (which is what my degree is in). While I don’t think it’s a case of ‘university wasn’t for me’ I think it’s a case of ‘this university/course wasn’t for me’ should I have studied something different I might have a completely different opinion.

    Alicia x
    http://www.aestheticobsessed.co.uk

    • 10th March 2018 / 12:45 pm

      Thanks for sharing this!! I agree! I had the same thing with changes of modules and after I thought of leaving and coming back a year later they didn’t have the modules I wanted so it was all a bit complicated. I sometimes think all this wouldn’t happen if it all happened when we were a year or two older though… to go through all the module decisions etc at 16/17 is so stressful whilst doing A levels at the same time!

      R xoxo

  5. Saira
    5th March 2018 / 9:43 pm

    I went to university and honestly don’t
    feel like it benefited me as much as people say. Sure I got the experience of living away and being independent – but that was the biggest thing. University is drilled into people at such a young age but it shouldn’t be seen as the only choice they can make ! People can achieve so much when they’ve not been forced!!
    Saira
    sairasays.co.uk xx

    • 10th March 2018 / 12:47 pm

      I agree that the experience is totally worth it! I feel like the living away/independence part of it is great but at that age I wasn’t really ready for that either. I would’ve been way better off doing it a year or two later, and wish I’d done differently in hindsight. Such a tricky decision to make isn’t it!

      R xoxo

  6. Elle
    22nd March 2018 / 4:16 am

    You’re amazing! And doing amazing! Super proud of everything you’re achieving xxxx

    • 30th March 2018 / 1:38 pm

      Thank you SO much my girl! xxxx

      R xoxo

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